Some of the managers at my company are rude to me, and they seem to dislike me. How can I stop letting their behavior affect me?

 

Dear Reader,

I can completely understand how difficult it would be to feel that certain superiors are being distant or even rude to you. In a setting where cooperation and respect should be the norm, it's painful to witness how that thoughtlessness filters into everyday interactions. But, as with so many things in life, there are ways of tackling this challenge that don't necessarily leave an emotional wound that spoils your day.

The first lesson I can teach is that sometimes we just aren’t able to control other people, even when we want to. It's a hard thing to accept, but it's also liberating. Perhaps the real strength lies in the ability to remain calm and clear-headed, even when all the situations are attempting to urge us to annoyance. Don't take other people's actions personally. Perhaps, underneath that cold demeanor, there is something that is all about them and nothing to you. If you believe the situation warrants it, it may be time to pleasantly inform you'd prefer more considerate treatment, however.

Then, a possible alternative could be to stand your ground, but without belligerence, your own boundaries. This is not about having an "I ignore you, you ignore me" situation, but rather focusing on what you can control: your own response. If you do find yourself in a situation where you feel you are being ignored, build solid relationships with the individuals who regard you. Build relationships with other co-workers who are fond of you, and distance yourself from individuals who are uncivil to you.

Ultimately, it is not important how people treat you, but rather how you respond and retain your dignity. Work life is just a series of daily choices, where each of us chooses to be the kind of person we want to be, even in the worst times.

Continue on in confidence, never losing sight of what is truly most valuable: your company work, your human relationships with coworkers and customers, your continuing education. Don't let antisocial individuals disrupt you.

Best regards,

Serafina

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